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Kathy. Here is a copy of a letter we just
sent to our online support group. Let us know
if this increases your survey results! We
are TRYING to help.
web site www.abuseconsultants.com has a new
survey that you can fill out and remain anonymous.
They want OUR opinions on how T's can be more
helpful to those of us with DID/MPD! That's
GREAT as far as we are concerned! Please go
there and at least look at the survey and
if you feel the urge, please fill it out,
as that can be a big help to ALL of us with
DID/MPD. The questions are thought provoking
and interesting, and we feel like anything
we can do to help the DID/MPD cause is worth
doing! There are also sites there to post
your poetry and writings (while maintaining
your privacy), a kids’ place where your
littles can go and play, and an art room too,
where you can post drawings and paintings.
Go wander around and tell us what you think,
warm gentle hugs,
of The Phoenix Factor
know posting poetry is very time consuming.
I think the poetry part of this wonderful
site is the most helpful mentally for me.
Because when people send you thier writings
someone manually puts them in the right place.
This to me was such an overwhelming experience
because someone other than myself thought
my feelings were worth reading. I post my
poetry at other sites but.....it's not the
same because I put it there. But when I came
here and saw my words on your site it made
me cry. Because someone else thought my words
were important! What a feeling!!!! Thank You
Kathy God Bless
I don’t know how your site came to me;
I’m thinking someone gave you my email
address. I guess that doesn’t matter.
I am not in need of in-depth therapy now,
having gone through years of healing work
for sexual and ritual abuse. I would, however,
like to contribute some of my poetry, and
would like to know a little more about what
you would do with it first. I am very open
to sharing, as it is my strong belief that
in the same way I felt connection through
others’ work, someone may benefit from
my words. It is, as you say, very healing.
Great site! I feel the gentle and understanding
vibrations in your site. You seem to have
mastered the way we need to go through our
process. I cannot fathom the work you went
through to get it the way it is, but somehow
those of you involved have managed to integrate
your understanding of our needs, your knowledge,
and your depth of caring into the site itself.
We are a 52 year old female with at least
42 alters. We are on medicaid and cannot afford
counseling, but we would be willing to answer
questions if it will help you treat others.
We did spend six years in intensive therapy,
so we are fairly stable right now. We would
welcome the opportunity to assist you so that
you can better help others like us. DID/MPD
has been misunderstood for so long, and it
makes us feel like if we tell people we are
DID/MPD they look at us like we are crazy.
We think Hollywood is mostly to thank for
the publics misconceptions. Maybe what you
are doing may lead to better understanding
by your group, and the public in general.
Sheryl of The Phoenix Factor
You for allowing me and others to feel that
we are important. That our words and hearts
are worth so much more than what our abusers
wanted for us to think.
I was visiting the music room on your website
and saw a question that said " What is
the first step of your dream"?
I thought a minute and said writing the poem
below was my first step. Admitting that I
felt so sad that I wanted to die. I needed
to know I could release the anger and that
it was ok to write these words. Without fear!
This was the first step of my dream.
Thank you and God Bless
was sent your web site by a friend. I am a
survivor of ritualistic abuse, and also am
an activist in this area. My web site is www.didsrasurvivors.com.
I am working as a Project Coordinator for
a new group that is being formed called 'Trauma
and Abuse Care Group International' (TACGI).
The objectives of this group are: 1) to form
an international organization in this area,
and 2) to build a network of survivor homes
and treatment centers.
approach is a bit unique in that we are focusing
on bringing together both professional therapists
and religious groups like Christian Pastoral
Counselors, clergy, etc., under one umbrella
It is our belief that there is a huge benifit
to survivors and clinicians alike to having
the support of the local religious community
that the survivor lives in. We have found
that there is a great deal of support available
in the i.e. Christian Community, and that
there is also unique counseling services within
this Community. This will be under the TACGI
Christian Group (a TACGI sub-group).
However, being aware that some survivors are
not comfortable with any religious group,
we are also forming a TACGI Professional Therapist/Multi-disciplinary
Group (a TACGI sub-group) that will deal with
this strictly from a secular professional
(*Board members from TACGI boards are from
all over North America).
I live in Alberta, Canada, and am involved
in a local project to build several survivor
applaud your efforts to build this web site
and provide on-line help to survivors.
wrote a book recently about your topic--maybe
it would interest you: http://www.geocities.com/twokatzmom/.
novel, Slide Down My Cellar Door, is about
family violence and pedophilia.
is a terrific website. Please check out mine:
The Alliance for the Treatment of trauma and
. Is there any way I can be helpful to you,
be a consultant, etc.?
Sheila Fox Sherwin
shall be reading your newsletters very carefully;
I have not yet accepted my Diagnosis completely
and I am still very much in the dark; I have
been "waking up" now, sense the
year of 1993. I am still beginning to learn
more and more about myself; it still hurts
very deeply to see all of my children as adults,
when they were very young when I first began
to go "to sleep"......God bless
am an old multiple who has been in therapy
since February of 1990. I am still in therapy,
but doing much better this year as compared
to past years. I heard about this newsletter
and the site "Abuse Consultants [AbuseConsultants.com]".
I am working for the first time in 5 years
and it feels good, but exhausting.
The body is female, however I have been the
head of family for almost 4 years now. Our
females have abdicated any control over to
myself and a few others, all of whom I truly
appreciate. For the first time ever, we are
finally having some cooperation and harmony
in living and it feels so good to be able
to go out and remember what we did the whole
time we were out. Our therapists say they
see us slowly blending together as more and
more of the wounds of the past have healed.
Well, I guess that is enough for now.
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew
you, before you were born I
set you apart"
we are His workmanship, created in Christ
Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand,
that we should walk in them."
doesn't make junk.
25, 2002 "Business Trauma Group"
there this is John Roberts,
got your interesting email about your services
this morning, Christmas morning, Merry Christmas
by the way.
email is to inform you of the new Charity
and web site that is being formed in the UK
for the families of traumatised victim and
survivors of PTSD and Abuse from what ever
source. I have been living with PTSD for the
last 30 plus years and after recovering and
qualifying as a therapist working with PTSD
suffers I have worked with traumatised clients
and their families for the last 10 years.
Since my wife and I came back to live in England
we have been working to set up this Charity
(Family Trauma Group) to help and assist traumatised
families who have or are suffering from secondary
PTSD on a day to day basis.
are opening the first family dedicated Trauma
Centre in the UK in the year 2003, in Wigan
in Lancashire England.
information is given to you, so that you may
be wish to add us to your date base for any
hands on assistance in England.
We recruit volunteers from our clients families
and trained them at no cost to themselves
to a very high standard, to be able to assist
other families who may come to us for assistance,
so the first contact point is a volunteer
who is trained and also a recovering survivor
of PTSD in the family.
is a very empathic approach and enables the
suffering to feel they are really being listen
too by a fellow suffer who has been through
the mill themselves. All of our volunteers
are given very good supervision by qualified
therapeutic supervisors to ensure their own
safety and well being.
also run courses where we teach families and
Medical professionals how to cope with traumatised
clients and we are also a reference point
for information on PTSD and other high anxiety
disorders. As such we could add your web site
to our information database.
that is a brief run down on what is up and
coming in the Uk over this next one year period.
Best regards for now
Roberts. Dip.Cons. and Valerie Roberts Chairperson
site I find professionally set up, polished
and thoroughly appealing. The colours and
form-work, I consider excellent and reassuring
to the eye. There are no piercing colours
or as I would describe "loud and threatening"
colours i.e. sharp bright red, deep green
/ blues. The colours seem pastel and soothing.
information I was able to review is informative,
the "Jigsaw" pieces very important.
In many instances I find having been a Consultant
in Trauma for over 30+ years these 'jigsaw'
pieces are exactly what is happening within
the patients (Survivors) minds.
is when the trigger of the traumatic image
/ memory / event is sparked off these 'jigsaw'
pieces are scattered, and it is our role as
Doctor's / Specialist's and Consultants to
collect all these pieces together and help
the individual piece them together to complete
the whole picture. Thus returning individuals
back to their former confident selves.
thank you for your request, and return an
honest reply for your attention. Please feel
free to make contact at any time.
attach an article "There's Nothing Wrong
With Me". I wrote this for both the Parachute
Regiment and South Atlantic Medal Association.
The article I wrote to assist all Serving
and Ex. Service personnel. The article is
used now to explain to all spouses and children
of Military and EMS personnel what PTSD is
like, and why personnel can sometimes feel
the way they do. Please feel free to post
this on your site if you deem it worthy. The
Trauma Centre (Wales) website is being revamped
at present, and hopefully I will advise our
Webmaster to add a link to your site if this
meets with your approval!
again, thank you for your request, and we
at this Trauma Centre (Wales) wish you well
with your new venture. Have a Merry Christmas
and a Peaceful and Prosperous New Year.
David Bennett (Director)
Trauma Centre (Wales)
Tel: +44(0) 1792 521063
haven't used this site as yet and I hadn't
even thought of doing something nice for myself...or
the others. That was quite kind. The first
thing I did was visit the site.
visiting the creative expressions first. I'm
starting up a self-help group 3D for people
who wish to express, using artistic means.
The people I'm working with are poverty stricken,
so I'm approaching companies for donations-in-kind,
so that all the supplies will be free. I have
a computer, but not everybody does. I find
that being able to express creatively really
lifts that hard to get at emotion (baggage)
and leaves room for all kinds of good stuff.
free to visit my site. I've won awards for
how far I've come on my journey.
information appears to be very valuable in
reference to my present mental status; I have
been DX. with DID earlier this year by my
Therapist, and am in need of any information
that I can receive; I am a 53 y/o Female.
10 , 2002
Thank You so much for this
site. Kathy left a link in my guestbook so
I decided to check it out. I was so pleased
to find a lot of the answers to my questions
through the Effects of trauma through sexual
abuse article. It has helped me a great deal.
I feel the ones around me will now know why
my actions are not quite like everyone elses.
I write alot of poetry it helps me to release
the emotions that I have without hurting myself.
I was sexually and physically abused by my
father untill my early teens. Now I'm 40 I
lived in fear untill he died. ( March 12,
2000) I'm not afraid anymore.
14 , 2002
k u guys have done a lot.) we are cheating
and tellin u this way instead of emailin.
we're going to have ta write u feedback some
time soon) us
What a wonderful website. Congratulations!
I like your 'greetings' - a great introduction
to a monumental project. Your website will
be a Godsend to severe trauma sufferers and
their supporters when word gets round. The
jigsaw sites, so far, are excellent - friendly,
warm and caring as well as being informative
and helpful. I found the 'Counseling' jigsaw
and all its sub-sections enlightening and
the 'Clinical Sample' in DID did more to make
me aware of how dissociate states operate
than anything I'd read or heard.
wish you every success in your remarkable
By chance I stumbled upon www.abuseconsultants.com
when I was browsing. Oh, how I wish I had
had access to your excellent website when
our family was confronted with a disclosure
of sexual abuse by our young child. We were
shocked, angry, confused and devastated and
did not know what to do or where to turn for
help. We certainly weren't prepared for the
emotional problems that continue to affect
our now adult child. When I read "The
Negative Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse"
on your website, I began to understand that
our loved one is still struggling with the
effects of what happened so many years ago.
I have told her about abuseconsultants.com
and pray she will seek your professional help.
Perhaps it's not too late after all.
You are developing a fantastic site. The wealth
of information and help is extremely impressive.
Your colors and design are second to none.
You are to be truly commended for your creative
approach to bring help and healing into the
homes and lives of people who have been so
I will recommend this site to many people
as I conduct my business as a Member of the
Parliament of Canada.
Spencer, Canadian MP