of the Garden
work, memory processing, sorting through cognitive
issues, etc, can all be very complicated,
heavy, heart-breaking, and grueling tasks.
Healing from such deep wounds is a very difficult
and enormous job of its own accord. However,
the healing process doesn’t stop there.
issues addressed in the garden room are so
very important to overall healing and reconnection
with a peaceful and fulfilling life. Finding
peace, comfort, and solace can be specifically
required after each and every heavy-duty therapy
session, after each memory surfaces, after
each triggered disruption, after each crisis
situation, etc. There are many times in life
where comfort is needed.
of the reasons trauma has such a long-standing
impact on survivors is that there was
typically no comfort and no soothing available
for the victims after they experienced such
horrific acts of violence and degradation.
The extended period of time between the painful
abuse and the receiving of comfort can be
hours, days, weeks, or years, or even decades
apart. Wounds left unattended will fester
and grow, infecting the person more and more.
Wounds that are more quickly soothed and comforted
will heal faster and have less impact on the
to find, accept, and offer comfort, empathy,
understanding, and soothing are all important
aspects of healing. This gives a positive
or at least bearable element to the wounds
that have been ignored for all too long. The
traumatic experiences can have some resolution
and be gradually transformed into something
more liveable and acceptable. This trauma
resolution results in both internal and external
peacefulness for the survivor.
relationships within the parts of the internal
DID system, or with pets, or plants, or people
is essential. Forming a healthy and solid
spiritual foundation is also critical to healing.
Again, building healthy relationships in the
current time frame help to overcome the negative
effects of not having those healthy relationships
during the time of the abuse.
is important to reclaim what “should
have been” had there been no trauma
in the first place.