Trauma work, memory processing, sorting through cognitive issues, etc, can all be very complicated, heavy, heart-breaking, and grueling tasks. Healing from such deep wounds is a very difficult and enormous job of its own accord. However, the healing process doesn’t stop there.

The issues addressed in the garden room are so very important to overall healing and reconnection with a peaceful and fulfilling life. Finding peace, comfort, and solace can be specifically required after each and every heavy-duty therapy session, after each memory surfaces, after each triggered disruption, after each crisis situation, etc. There are many times in life where comfort is needed.

One of the reasons trauma has such a long-standing negative impact on survivors is that there was typically no comfort and no soothing available for the victims after they experienced such horrific acts of violence and degradation. The extended period of time between the painful abuse and the receiving of comfort can be hours, days, weeks, or years, or even decades apart. Wounds left unattended will fester and grow, infecting the person more and more. Wounds that are more quickly soothed and comforted will heal faster and have less impact on the person.

Learning to find, accept, and offer comfort, empathy, understanding, and soothing are all important aspects of healing. This gives a positive or at least bearable element to the wounds that have been ignored for all too long. The traumatic experiences can have some resolution and be gradually transformed into something more liveable and acceptable. This trauma resolution results in both internal and external peacefulness for the survivor.

Developing relationships within the parts of the internal DID system, or with pets, or plants, or people is essential. Forming a healthy and solid spiritual foundation is also critical to healing. Again, building healthy relationships in the current time frame help to overcome the negative effects of not having those healthy relationships during the time of the abuse.

It is important to reclaim what “should have been” had there been no trauma in the first place.